Rejoice Always. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
With everything going on in my life it has taken forever to get this post together. I was thinking God why am I even doing this I don’t have the time or energy. And to be honest what would I even write because I’ve not felt very qualified to speak on the subject of parenting with the way Sapphire has been acting lately. I’ve been overwhelmed by work, ministry, and Sapphire so to be honest most days I’d rather run away then share my experiences. And then I laughed and thought…content for the blog. God you’re providing content.
In an effort to figure out what to do with Sapphire’s flip mouth and even flippier (it’s a word i just made it up) attitude I reached out to our village. I talked with several friends about how they’ve handled issues with their kids previously or what they are doing now. I saw that we were all having issues with our children and intuitively knowing the right method of discipline was impossible. No one wants to be as hard as their parents were but couldn’t let the child get away with the behaviors (ugh it’s all just exasperating). But I found peace in knowing that no one has the right equation that would total the perfect amount of act right in a child. No, we’re all remembering childhood experiences, subtracting negative integers, and adding in a lot of GOD.
For years the devil tried to make me feel like Sapphire’s behavior was because of my choices; that it was only my child acting out so perhaps it was due to something I did or did not do. The bible says in Rev 12:10 the devil is the accuser of the brethren and for a long time I accepted it because I had really done all the things he had accused me of. I had asked for forgiveness but I thought I was still guilty of the crime. The guilt robbed me of a lot of joy, peace, and sleep. And allowed Sapphire to use of manipulation as a pawn to get most anything from me or her father (kids come out with the ability to manipulate). Until I understood that I was no longer on trial for my sins and errors. Jesus had stepped in, essentially “done the time” for my crimes, and I was free to go and sin no more (John 8:11). I’ve over come that accusation by the blood that Jesus shed and the word of my testimony (Rev 12:11).
Well then why the heck are our kids acting up?? Here’s my perspective. Among other things, kids are naughty because they are human, born in a fallen word, and have the same free will you and I have. I’m sure we can go back and forth about sins of the father and generational curses and get really spiritual but that’s another topic for another day. The one thing we all can agree on is we must pray for our children!
Last Sunday I got the idea to start a prayer journal for any kid I knew struggling with something or had a transition coming (middle school, high school, college). Seriously, out of all the books and journals around the apartment I couldn’t find a single one at 4:30 am! So I grabbed a stack of computer paper stapled it and wrote Remember at the top. Each page has a child’s name, a scripture, and a handwritten prayer. Everyday I pray these prayers and will continue to do so until I see God move in the lives of our kids. And turns out the stack of computer paper was the best idea because I’ll be adding additional sheets sooner than I thought. Everyday I am on the look out for parents (married or single) who need a listening ear and someone to stand with them in prayer for their child.
If you’d like to be added to my prayer journal, In the comment section: leave your child’s first name and the scripture you are using to stand on in faith during this time. If you don’t have a scripture still add the name as I trust the Holy Spirit will lead me in prayer for you.